How To Make Her Scream (Part Two)
A Kinky Guide to Getting Your Female Partner Off
Please Note: This article has been edited since it’s initial publication because… well I’m a writer and I did that typical writer thing of realising I could do ‘word-smithing’ better. The main content is the same, but the puns are just pun-nier! 🥁
Before We Begin: This article primarily speaks to heteronormative couples and uses heteronormative language, but the principles here apply to anyone looking to understand their female-bodied partner (or themselves!) on a whole new level. Because at the end of the day, great sex isn’t about labels—it’s about connection, exploration, and knowing how to touch someone in a way that makes you both feel completely and utterly alive.
Welcome back, you magnificent mavericks of the mattress!
If Part One had you awakening to the science of arousal and the art of making her feel safe, then buckle up—Part Two is here to turn you into a bona fide pleasure maestro.
Consider this your next-level masterclass in seduction, where we’re not just dabbling in foreplay but diving headfirst into the delicious, debauched details of what really makes her pulse race.
This isn’t just about sex; it’s about transforming your intimate encounters into unforgettable, mind-blowing experiences.
Just like Part One, this bad boy is long 😈 — Again, I don’t just want to give you a taste of what’s possible, I want you to have access to the whole damn buffet. So take your time, savour every word, and come back for seconds (or thirds) whenever you’re famished.
Setting the Scene for Seduction
Before we plunge into the nitty-gritty (and oh so exciting worlds) of erotic blueprints, dirty talk, and the artful dance of touch, let’s recap.
In the sizzling kickoff to our series How to Make Her Scream: A Kinky Guide to Getting Your Female Partner Off, we turned up the heat on the essentials of mind-blowing pleasure.
We started with a golden rule: safety isn’t just sexy, it’s essential.
Her autonomic nervous system has to vibe safety (aka be in her Parasympathetic state) to hit those high notes of pleasure and orgasm.
Remember, it’s all about making her feel secure enough to let go.
We also smashed the myth that foreplay is just a prelude—because baby, it’s the whole damn concert! By redefining foreplay as an integral part of sex, we explored how it helps her feel safe enough to surrender deeper into her body and boosts her (and your!) arousal.
Then, we turned the sensory dial to the max, diving into how to tantalise all her senses to help her drop fully into her body.
Now, my incredible male bodied lover, you’re going to learn how to stir up the anticipation oh so effectively by learning how to speak to her deepest desires.
So, get ready to ignite your inner Casanova. With a few well-chosen words, a daring look, and a touch that speaks louder than any action, you’re about to embark on a journey that’ll rock your socks right off!
1. The Erotic Blueprints — Navigating Her Pleasure Map
Ahoy, pleasure seekers! Imagine embarking on an adventurous quest across the sensual seas, where you're not just any sailor—you're the captain, armed with a secret map to unearth the deepest treasures of her desires.
Welcome to the world of the Erotic Blueprints, your saucy guide to the language of lust.
Created by the renowned sexuality expert Jaiya, these blueprints are like the spicier, more risqué siblings of the five love languages. They’re designed to help you decode the diverse ways us people get turned on, sorting everyone into one of five helpful categories: Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, Energetic, or Shapeshifter (more on this bellow).
So why does this matter?
Research shows that a whopping 63% of people haven't fully explored their erotic potential. They've yet to discover what truly tickles their fancy or how to communicate their desires.
By mastering these blueprints, you’ll not only unlock the secrets to your own pleasure potential, but you’ll also learn how to captain your partner's sails, soaring her into a hurricane of ecstasy (did I over do it on the pirate analogies?).
With this delicious toolkit, you're set to transform your bedroom into a playground of passion. You’ll know exactly how to set the scene, from crafting the perfect ambiance to finding those touches and whispers that make your partner melt.
Think of it as having the ultimate cheat sheet to winning the game of desire. 😈
The Science Behind The Erotic Blueprints
Let’s break down the magic behind each type:
Sensual: Think of her as a living canvas craving an atmosphere of soft lighting, gentle caresses, and tender whispers that send delightful shivers down her spine. For a Sensual, every sensory detail counts—whether it’s the subtle aroma in the air or the delicate brush of your fingertips against her skin. Her pleasure is a slow-burning fire fuelled by igniting all her senses.
Sexual: Here, she’s all about the raw, unfiltered connection. The Sexual type isn’t interested in a frilly prelude—she craves bold moves and confident actions that set her heart racing. Direct stimulation and assertive passion get her engine revving, making her desire both fierce and immediate.
Kinky: Ready to push boundaries? The Kinky blueprint thrives on the thrill of the taboo. She’s enticed by power dynamics, playful restrictions, and those unexpected twists that defy convention. Unleash your inner rebel, be daring and play with anticipation like your life depends on it. This is your permission slip to be oh so gloriously bad - just make sure you’ve both communicated clearly ahead of time where the boundaries are!
Energetic: For the Energetic, it’s all about the buildup—the tease, the tantalising delay, and that electric tension that courses through the air with every almost-touch. Anticipation is her aphrodisiac; she craves the slow escalation of desire, where each caress feels like a promise of ecstasy waiting to unfold. Play with all the delicious ways you can build her up without a single touch!
Shapeshifter: A delicious enigma, the Shapeshifter embodies a blend of all these elements. One night she might melt under sensual touches, and the next, she could be craving that daring, kinky edge. Her unpredictable nature keeps you on your toes, constantly challenging you to adapt and rediscover new facets of her desire.
P.S. – I’m not an affiliate or connected to Jaiya or The Erotic Blueprints in any way—I’m simply a pure lover of their work! The Blueprint Quiz is $17 (at time of publication) and comes with a funky 28-page report that’s totally worth the investment for mind-blowing pleasure.
How to Use These Blueprints (and Where to Learn More)
Once you’ve cracked the code and identified her blueprint (and yours!), the real fun begins.
Customise Your Approach: Think of her blueprint as your playbook. Adjust your touch, tone, and timing to fit her unique wiring. - For more details and a breakdown of how to make this work for you, I recommend Jaiya’s book “Blueprints For Pleasure”.
Dive Into the Resources: Your journey doesn’t have to stop with a basic understanding. Jaiya’s extensive work offers interactive quizzes, detailed guides, and hands-on workshops designed to help you—and your partner—put insight into action. Explore her resources here.
Practice Makes Perfect: Experiment together and let the process be playful and full of curiosity. Use these blueprints as a framework remembering that each intimate moment is an opportunity to refine your technique, learn from her responses, and become even more attuned to her desires.
Unlocking her Erotic Blueprint isn’t just about knowing what turns her on—it’s about connecting with her on a level that transcends physicality.
So, gentlemen, are you ready to chart her uncharted territories and become the ultimate cartographer of her desires? (last sailing pun, I promise-ish!)
2. The Mastery of Dirty Talk — Crafting Words That Captivate
Imagine if your very voice could seduce her like a magic spell—igniting her fire from the very core. Well it can!
Dirty talk isn't about throwing around some raunchy one-liners which sound like they belong on the set of a low budget 70's porno; no siree.
Dirty talk is the delectable art of speaking a secret language that vibes perfectly with both your Erotic Blueprints.
Whether she’s a Sensual who swoons over soft, poetic murmurs, a Sexual who craves bold declarations of desire, or a Kinky who revels in edgy, rebellious banter - your words have the power to elevate every intimate moment into an unforgettable seduction.
Trust me - when you’ve found a way to make dirty talk feel natural, authentic and in alignment with both your unique flares - this bad boy will make you team captain in no time!
The Science of Seductive Speech
Here’s the naughty science behind it: when you deliver the right words, her brain fires off a dopamine rush that builds anticipation, while oxytocin deepens that intimate connection.
Your sultry speech essentially becomes a neuro-chemical cocktail—a potent mix that disarms her defences and lights a fire of desire.
Remember how in Part One I shared how her brain is her largest pleasure organ? Well dirty talk is your way of stroking her mind’s nerve endings, working them up into a wild, defening explosion of ecstacy.
So lets dive in, ya soon to be filthy animal you 😉
How to Craft Your Dirty Talk (Without Cringing Out Loud)
Let’s be real—no one is born a silver-tongued seducer reciting steamy sonnets from day one (not even Mr. Shakes-e-p could do that!).
The secret is to start small, be genuine, and let your inner wordsmith gradually take centre stage.
Talk the Talk: Begin by having a playful, candid chat with your partner about what turns you both on. Ask questions like, “What do you love hearing when things heat up?” or “Do you like it when I say naughty things like…?”, “When do you like to hear me talk dirty?”. For some, the right words will help build the anticipation, for others it’ll help throw them over the edge into pure bliss (and then there’s some of us who crave it 24/7 - I’m a writer FFS. Are you surprised?). Share your own fantasies too. This is a mutual exchange after all.
Use Your Erotic Blueprint: Tailor your language to match her unique wiring. A Sensual might melt for soft, poetic lines that evoke a gentle caress, while a Sexual craves direct, unfiltered declarations that leave no room for doubt. If she’s Kinky, sprinkle in some rebellious, taboo-tinged phrases that hint at power play, and for an Energetic, slow-burn, teasing statements that build suspense are liquid gold.
Experiment and Improvise: Don’t be afraid to test the waters with a mix of rehearsed lines and spontaneous, off-the-cuff remarks. Try recording yourself (just for fun) to get comfortable with your voice and delivery. Use role-play scenarios to experiment with different personas—maybe today you’re the smooth-talking rebel, tomorrow the charming poet of passion (Bonus point if you’re partner’s a book nerd and you go full shadow daddy on her 😈).
Embrace the Awkward: Even if your first attempts come off as clunky or over-the-top, own it with a cheeky laugh. Authenticity is the real aphrodisiac. If a line sounds a bit off, pivot and laugh it off. A genuine, playful vibe can transform a cringe-worthy moment into an inside joke that creates deeper intimacy. You’re both human after all.
Incorporate Visual, Sensory and Emotive Cues: Enhance your dirty talk by combining it with visual or physical cues. Whisper in her ear as you trace light patterns on her skin, or sync your words with the rhythm of your touch. Tell her what you’re thinking, what you want to do to her, or what you’re currently doing to her. Let her know how it makes you feel. How much it turns you on. How much you crave her! Remember - everyone wants to feel wanted and desired. Let there be no room for doubt in her mind just how much you hunger for her. And don’t be shy about going into detail. You got this, you Casanova you!
Make It a Dialogue: Dirty talk doesn’t have to be a one-man show—it’s can be a sizzling back-and-forth that revs both your engines. Encourage her to share her own fantasies and responses. Use her moans, gasps, and playful banter as cues to guide your next seductive line. The more you both invest in this shared language, the more naturally it will flow, the more organic and in the moment it’ll be and eventually it’ll turn your intimate encounter into a co-created masterpiece.
When your words align with both your deepest desires, your voice becomes the instrument that orchestrates a symphony of pleasure, where every sultry whisper is a promise of ecstasy.
So, get out there, you kinky word smith you! Let your language of lust flow, and turn every moment into an adventure of tantalising anticipation.
3. How to Touch Her to Make Her Scream — The Art and Science of Clitoral & G-Spot Stimulation
Imagine transforming every touch into a burst of electrifying pleasure that leaves her breathless and begging for more.
This section is your playbook for mastering the most potent areas of her anatomy—the clitoris and the G-spot—turning every intimate encounter into a symphony of ecstasy.
The Science of Sensation
Let’s get scientific, and a little saucy:
The clitoris isn’t just a cute little nub—it’s a sensory superpower loaded with over 8,000 nerve endings ready to launch explosive fireworks of pleasure.
But here’s the juicy twist: the clitoris is deeply connected to what many call the G-spot—a tantalising, spongy “space” nestled inside, part of an intricate network that wraps around the front of the vaginal walls.
Think of it as the internal extension of that external powerhouse. When you stimulate the clitoral complex with the right blend of pressure, rhythm, and variation, you unleash a cascade of dopamine and oxytocin that sends shockwaves through her entire body.
But here’s your golden rule: DON’T GO IN COLD.
Why? Because women get erect too!
Yes, really!
When aroused, the vulva (that’s the whole external package, not just the clitoris) swells with blood, making everything extra sensitive. And the clitoris? She doesn’t just sit there quietly—she expands, becoming up to 300% bigger when fully aroused.
So before diving in with touch, look for these tell tell signs of arousal (not just at how wet she is because - surprise number two incoming - lubrication isn’t as reliable a sign of arousal as we think it is).
Sure, it’s important (deeply important!) but to really know if she’s aroused enough for touch or penetration, look for the following signs:
Increased Blood Flow: As arousal turns up, the vulva gets its blush on, deepening in colour to say, “Let’s get this party started!”
Swelling: The labia minora (her inner folds) join the party too—they swell up with their newfound prominence and sensitivity.
Clitoral Erection: Like a true star, the clitoris rises to the occasion, getting erect and ultra-sensitive, ready to headline the show.
Changes in Clitoral Position: With things heating up, the clitoris moves, getting even more sensitive and prepped for the main act.
Get this right, and you’re not just on track to making her scream—you’re turning every intimate moment into an unforgettable adventure of ecstasy.
Different Kinds of Clitoral Touch — Proven Strategies to Make Her Scream Every Profanity Under The Sun!
When it comes to turning that not-so-little powerhouse of pleasure into an orgasmic dynamo, variety is your secret weapon.
Here are some proven strategies, each with its own flair, to help you become the maestro of her ecstasy:
Feather-Light Caresses: Start with gentle, teasing touches that mimic the light flutter of a feather. Use your fingertips (or tongue 😏) to softly trace around the clitoral hood and glans. This delicate approach builds anticipation, making every subsequent touch feel more electric.
Firm, Consistent Pressure: Once she’s warmed up (remember to look for the signs above!), try increasing the pressure. A steady, deliberate stroke using your thumb or fingers can be incredibly effective. This isn’t about smashing her sensibilities—it’s about controlled, confident touch that signals you know exactly what you’re doing.
Circular Motions: Get creative by swirling your fingers in gentle circles around her clitoris. Vary the size of your circles and the speed of your movements. This variation can trigger a cascade of sensations, keeping her on the edge and building towards an explosive climax. Let her moans, body movements and breath be your cue as to what she likes and if in doubt - ask!
Tapping and Flicking: Light taps or quick flicks can serve as delightful punctuation between more sustained strokes. These sharp, playful touches can surprise her, heightening sensitivity and intensifying pleasure as you mix up the rhythm. Remember - her clitoris can be extreeeeemally sensitive, so go softly if in doubt.
Vibratory Stimulation: Whether it’s with your tongue during oral play or a well-chosen battery operated boyfriend (sorry!), adding a vibratory element can be a game changer. The vibrations offer a different kind of stimulation that can resonate deeply with her nerve endings, paving the way for mind-blowing orgasms.
Alternating Techniques: The key to mastery is variation. Alternate between soft caresses, firm pressure, and rhythmic tapping. Watch her reactions—each moan or shift in her body is a cue to fine-tune your technique. This dynamic interplay keeps her guessing (and craving more) and transforms each touch into a symphony of sensation.
Multi-Sensory Integration: Don’t just rely on your hands. Combine touch with other forms of stimulation—whisper sweet nothings in her ear, use gentle kisses around her neck, or sync your caresses with a slow, sensual massage of her inner thighs. Engaging multiple senses can heighten her overall experience, turning a simple touch into a full-blown orgasmic adventure.
As you know by now - each woman is different - and during each phase of her cycle, she may crave different things. So, gear up, be attentive, and let your creativity guide you as you explore the many flavours of touch.
Your goal? To make every caress a declaration of desire and every touch a step closer to that unforgettable climax.
Further Practical, Playful Tips to Make Her Scream
Communicate Like a Pro: Ask her, “How’s this feeling?” or “Do you like that?” and pay close attention to her moans and movements. Her feedback is your ultimate guide to perfecting your technique.
Warm-Up Wonders: Don’t jump straight to the main event. Start with teasing caresses along her inner thighs and lower abdomen. Build anticipation and let her body adjust before zeroing in on her clitoral or G-spot stimulation.
Resource Round-Up: Craving more detailed techniques? Dive into resources like The Multi-Orgasmic Man, OMG Yes! or Tantric Sex for Lovers for in-depth tutorials that expand your erotic repertoire and teach you advanced tantric practices.
Coming Next in Part Three…
Alright, you smooth-talking seducers: you’ve mastered some sultry dirty talk, unlocked a treasure chest of techniques to send her into overdrive, and decoded her Erotic Blueprints like a true pleasure cartographer.
You’re no longer fumbling in the dark—you’re strutting in with scientific savvy, playful finesse, and a swagger that could make even the most experienced lover green with envy.
But don’t rest on your laurels just yet, stud.
In Part Three (yes! It’s a three parter), we’re cranking it up a notch as we delve into the art of aftercare—the secret sauce that wraps every climax in a warm, tender embrace.
We’re also going to help you ditch that pesky need for flawless performance, so you can let go and connect on a raw, unfiltered level.
And I’ll be sharing with you some kinky practices you can share with your lover that’ll transforms your sex-capades into a masterclass of connection and pleasure.
Stay tuned and prepare to elevate your game to a whole new level of erotic excellence—your next great adventure is just a heartbeat away - or you know, next week… it’s next week!
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P.S. Ready to take this from hot to holy-fuck-this-changes-everything? 🥵
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Alexa, there is so much goodness here, I really enjoy your writing style! The Blueprints™ feel like a Myers-Briggs for the bedroom. There's so much on offer to be able to map our own erotic terrain -- and that of our lover(s).
After graduating from VITA™ with Layla, I went on to certify in the Erotic Blueprints™ with Jaiya and can say first hand how I am so enamored of her methodology!
I haven’t done my blue print in a while! I may need to update! Although sensual and shapeshifter sound pretty accurate! 🤤🙌🏽